I do! (hmm I don't know!)

 Do you take him/her to be your wedded husband/wife, to live together in marriage?  Do you promise to love him/her, comfort him/her, honor and keep him/her for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and forsaking all others, be faithful only to him/her, for as long as you both shall live? I DO ! 

"I am supposed to say this, and I did. Trust me I am still not sure what exactly I am doing. But yea I do he/she is the person I have to spend my lifetime with. seriously?wait we spent a lot on the camera shoot, clothes, jewellery and make up I have to paste a smile and look good. And dear "so called society" you can enjoy the food, I still can't believe its just for this one party food and drinks you wanted me to get married!  And about the vow I just promised hmm I will try that is the best thing I can do." 

                               I belong  to a  generation where even after being in a relationship for ten years there is still a high possibility of falling out of love with your partner. For some it is a totally okay and natural process. “We knew each other almost all our lives and there was just nothing left in our relationship and we fell out of love.” Sometimes the falling in and out process continues for an innumerable number of times. And  sometimes you are done with the whole love shuv shit and yet you settle down with a complete stranger whom your parents choose for you. You marry that person not because you like him or her, not because you think one day you will love him/her but because society wanted you to get married, your parents wanted you to settle down with someone. I wonder if people could fall out of love with someone they knew since ages then how does the society expect us to spend our whole life time with a stranger? Its even easier to break away from such a relationship , you don’t even have to fall out of love.  It might sound like I am all against arrange marriages, but any day I would prefer a known devil than an unknown one. 

                               We live in a society where sometimes even your extra curricular activities are termed as creative ways of wasting time. Anything  you do that doesn’t help you in getting that rank 1 in exams is definitely waste. Since your kindergarten days you are taught of one thing Rank 1 , education  and career. That should always be your prime focus. Crushes, boyfriends , dream houses marriage these are illusions hence ought to be ignored. And one fine morning your parents feel its high time you should get married. Basically some uncle or aunty or who so ever maybe must have shared their concern that you are getting old and you are done with your education and now what should your parents be waiting for ? So all these years of hard work in school, college and office was to get married? All these years things that were never supposed to matter all of a sudden become the most important thing in life.  And if you are a girl no matter how much career oriented, ambitious and hard working you are society still expects  a man to validate your existence. Strange! All these years every time you went for a movie or anything with your best friends and if they happen to be a guy remember the look on your parents face? Your friend literally had to go through a CT scan even though you know him since ages. I wonder how all of a sudden your parents can trust you with a complete stranger specially when it concerns spending your whole lifetime with him!According to them he is a nice guy, funny part is they just know his name, the colleges he went to and wherever and whatever he is doing now. It was enough for them to brand him with a perfect son-in-law tag. All these years you keep postponing all the crazy things you wanted to do, all the places you wanted to go, all the passions you wanted to pursue to a tomorrow you were never sure would come. You were told to concentrate on your career marks degrees and then you can do whatever you wish to. And then reality knocks you down. You are asked to be practical and your so called insane ideas will never be accepted by anyone. This is the apt time to get married else you wont get a nice guy or girl later or maybe we will lose this good candidate. “candidate!” seriously? The older you become the difficult it is to find you a partner. Even people start thinking something must be wrong with you hence you are still single. Really?There is something called being single by choice, heard of it? Sometimes you compromise with your idea of life, live the way others want you to do and your dreams turn into regret. People still believe in spending more money on their daughter’s wedding rather than on her education.  She is your responsibility,  don’t make her feel like a liability.

                                   Arrange marriages are fine so far as you marry someone who can make you laugh even after being with you for 30 years and can still find your smile beautiful even when you have lost your bunny teeth. Someone who doesn’t mind living your crazy ideas which seemed insane and impractical to the whole world. I would not pay him to marry me and I am sure not a single girl in this world would want that.  Can they find such a “candidate”?  We don’t  marry just for the sake of getting married, do we?

17 Things a Girl Hates about a Guy.. :P

I hope you do not fall in the 17 points category noted below. And if you do please take it in good humour, I mean no offence to anyone. :)

1. You think it is sexy to add up any random girl on facebook having a sexy display picture? But unfortunately the girls you add up don’t find it sexy!!

Step 2: poke her !! how jobless can you be? Get a life beyond facebook, maybe a sexy girl might someday notice you.

2. Flirting is healthy. But sometimes you need to learn the basics before trying, desperate flirting leads nowhere. 

3.You think your lecherous stare makes her feel pretty and wanted? Well no it makes her feel like a piece of bone being desired by a dog.

4 . Her  face is not in her bossom sweetheart! Look at her face when you talk to her.

5. Do you have a count on your one night stands? And yet you want to spend your whole life with someone who is “pure and fresh”  :O Excuse me she is not a vegetable or fruit(pure and fresh)!

6.You cannot appreciate women whether at work or any other place. She can never be right because she is “She”. And you know why you think that way? Male chauvinistic pig you are!!

7.She does not find your EGO attractive. The hot egoistic young man in reel life is attractive not in real life. 

8.You pretend to be cool, you pretend to be someone you are not. Pretension can never make you a real man. 

9.The world does not really revolve around you, your watches, your cars, your whatever!

10.You have female friends, so what is the big deal? You seriously don’t need to show that off!!

11.You have a bike that is definitely attractive but you need not really need to attract people on roads with the horrible stunts  and ofcourse your idiotic sense of dressing.

12. A little bit of importance makes you feel like being on demand and you tend to ignore the the person who makes you feel important. That is not attitude that is stupidity. : ) 

13. You have got every right to look at and talk to any girl you wish and she talks to her male best friend and there is world war 3.

14.We get it you have a thorough knowledge on every abusive slang on earth but cant you shut your tongue when you use the same for her? Sometimes you need to learn to deal with break ups and move on. Calling names, drinking and trying to be a modern devdas shows your immaturity.

15. You are 21 and you think asking someone what is budweiser and if red bull is beer would make you innocent and impress a girl then you are actually dumb. It does not prove your innocence but your dumbness and ignorance.

16. You don’t like washing your socks, do you? The perfume or deodrant you use cannot compete with the “aroma” of your socks so for a change either change your socks or wash them.

17.You have no idea how irritating it is when your deodrant smells like an after shave lotion and you must have probably used half the bottle in one time spray. Don’t you check the smell before buying? ( don’t get fooled by the wild stone commercials)

A friend told me there is not much to hate about guys.. "They are guys!! Cant help it..they are not meant to be sensitive and understand things on their own." 

  We just have this tendency to expect a gentleman out of every man we know or meet and reality verses expectation happens and hence the disappointment.